I know this is hard to understand in a world recovering from “co-dependency.” Yet “co-dependancy” is actually closer to enlightenment than narcissism. In a world where “self-love” is held as an ideal, putting others before one’s self is actually where we need to be.
We’ve become oriented around self-love because:
1) we were taught ‘we are not good enough’
2) others don’t care for each other
But transcending those things means caring for each other.
I care for you; you care for me, unconditionally. Self-love is expressed through love for others.