What is Authentic Relating?

Done well, done in the way our society needs this work, Authentic Relating is not just fun and engaging interpersonal games, but an invitation to explore, in a safe way, the deepest parts of ourselves in a safe community, the parts of ourselves we otherwise have a habit of hiding. The parts of ourselves that are wounded, and holding us back from the lives we really want to be leading. To get to know ourselves, beyond our trauma-informed view of who we think we are. This can be especially tough in the Midwest, where there is a strong amount of cultural and emotional repression ~ more than in other places I have lived. Opening up to yourself can be really scary, emotionally.
I agree with Thomas Hubl that we are all living in a field of “collective trauma.” I didn’t know that before. Maybe none of us does, or realizes the full extent to which that is true. We are all a great deal more traumatized than we realize. Not just by specific childhood traumas (that too), but by social conditioning and the social/emotional environments we were raised in ~ including churches and schools where we were taught misinformation and gaslit for disagreeing, as well as television commercials and media that convinced us we were not good enough unless we purchased products.
The culture we were raised in forced us into keeping up with the fictitious Jones’, and also encouraged bigotry, sexism, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, favored a work-life over a love-life, and the list goes on.
Mr. Rogers is about the only saving grace from the 80s I can think of off the top of my head.
We’re all living in a lot deeper of a trauma-informed worldview than we ever realized. As far as most therapists and life coaches go, it’s the blind leading the blinder. This is troubling. But look around, and correct me if I’m wrong, but I see very few (if any) folks who are actually, truly, legitimately thriving and happy and content with our lives. We all tend to have tendencies to avoid the deeper parts of ourselves and each other. Unconditional Love is a scare resource, Purpose and Meaning rare, and empathy is in atrophy. All of that comes from trauma. It’s not normal, healthy human behavior. All of this is the social and cultural conditions we live in day-to-day.
Authentic Relating Games are more than games. They’re community building and transformational for the type of emotional healing we all need.

OFF THE SPECTRUM

CALL FOR GUESTS on the Podcast

~Message if you would like to be a guest on the broadcast, or share with anyone you know who might~

Intro:
This is a podcast dedicated to giving those of us who see the world differently a voice and place to express our unique perspectives, perceptions and observations.

We strive to show what benefits there are in seeing the world differently, thinking along different lines, and seeing the world through a different lense.

Not all minds think alike. Neurodiversity may be as important as biodiversity. We are looking for guests with any form of unique viewpoints, not just those on the autism spectrum ~ anyone with views that are divergent from the status quo.

Questions for Guests:

What is it like to be you, in your own unique way of seeing the world?

How do you believe others see the world which is different from yours?

What is a useful definition, characteristics of “neuro-typical”?

In what ways do you believe that thinking differently is generally regarded as a positive trait?

In what ways do you believe that thinking differently is generally disrespected?

There is a lot of baggage around the terms “Autism” and “Asperger’s.” Is there less baggage around the phrase “on the spectrum?” How would you define “the spectrum of neuro-diversity” beyond those 2 loaded labels.
What is the value of thinking and seeing the world differently?

What is one or a few ways you see that society and culture we live in could change for the better, for the benefit of all sentient beings?

No More Snooze Button

I’m not apathetic, and I’m not lazy. But I am groggy. “Waking up” in the spiritual sense feels exactly like my alarm clock going off and not wanting to get out of bed to do some bullshit. But I ain’t bullshitin’. I want to beat that alarm clock with a baseball bat, but there’s no more snooze button. We’ve got to wake up and change our habits. There is Purpose in this work. What one habit can I change in my life today, that may cause me to suffer a little more, but is necessary for the future of the earth? It’s like going on a diet, eating right, we may suffer and be hungry at first, but in the long run, we’ll thank ourselves, be healthier. We’re not “good enough” sorry. We have got to push ourselves harder. Give 3 shits instead of 2 about the world we live in. Even if it means some self-sacrifice. It’s time to wake up. We must change. For Mother Earth. Aho metaquiasin!

A NEW SPIRITUALITY

There is a new spirituality taking root in society, one that is based on the notion that thoughts affect reality, rooted in the healing of collective trauma, and whose rituals are based in the ways of Native Peoples. It’s a Shamanic tradition (which is a fancy word for saying it’s Earth-based). In Native Shamanic traditions, the Shaman were the individuals that Western mainstream thought marginalizes as having mental disabilities. Reason being, Western mainstream thought does not allow for the mystical: it’s not seen as rational. The emerging spirituality requires scientific thought to accept that worlds unseen by our five physical senses are equally as real as the ones it has identified so far. The new spirituality is actively seeking open-minded scientists, of which, sadly, there are few. There has been a flip. 500 years ago, scientists were more open-minded than spiritualists. This is no longer the case. The new spirituality is open-minded and inclusive, where mainstream western thought is closed-off and judgmental. However, the new spirituality does not simply believe “anything.” We’re quite discerning. Astrological reports on each individual are often the length of a Bible. The new spirituality recognizes that the Peace that Jesus taught is equal to the Compassion that Buddha taught and that the body, mind, soul yogas that arise from Hinduism are equally as important.

Perhaps above all, the new spirituality holds that Mother Earth (Gaia) is alive, and that nature has equal rights with humans. We believe that every life is of equal value, including plants and animals.

Humans are part of nature. Not separate from it, as the dying patriarchial mentality of western though held at the time when this new spirituality arose.

We honor the New Moon and the Full Moons as Holy Days.
We’re nature-based. Let’s continue to evolve this way of thinking.

Our calendar would be lunar-based instead of solar-based.

LET’S DO OUR PART, AS A PART OF THE “MIDDLE CLASS”

Yes, the world’s so-called “elite” need to stop flying private jets and ruling the world with their greed. And, the rest of us need to get out of the victim’s mentality and waiting for government and corporate interests to change. Let’s lead from the middle, let’s lead by example. Let’s change our ways, as individuals. Let’s hold ourselves to more appropriate standards.

My ancestors, Italian immigrants, came through Ellis Island in search of a better life. The life they found here was a struggle from the start, and they lived in the slums of Chicago for 2 1/2 generations. But all the while, there was the very-American, very human, need to build a better life for themselves. That’s very admirable and respectful. I am turning to that kind of inspiration to move forward in my own life now. It’s not easy to muster in this land of complacent mediocrity, where we do what we’re told to earn a paycheck to keep us in the lifestyles to which we are accustomed, all the while blind, deaf and numb to the consequences our lives of irresponsible affluence. I don’t expect my message to be popular, but I do hope some folks out there have the ears to hear it. I don’t want it to rest on blame, shame or guilt. But one way or another, we have got to change our ways. The American way of life is irresponsible and unsustainable. And we have got to mature & grow up as a society. It’s nothing we’ve done; it’s not our fault, but now we know better, and there’s no excuse for not changing our ways, other than willful ignorance.

LET’S DO OUR PART, AS A PART OF THE “MIDDLE CLASS” To quote Ms. Thunberg, “Change is coming, whether we like it or not.”